Master Your Bliss Life

Narrator: 

You’re listening to Master Your Bliss Life. Join Kiera Masters and Lia Bliss as they dive into the magical, mysterious, and mundane elements of life, helping you to master your purpose and find your bliss.

Kiera:

Love you?

Lia:

Love you? Like, question mark?

Kiera:

Love you? Love you long time?

Lia:

Such a bitch. Love you long time. Kiera…

Kiera:

Yeah.

Lia:

… is trying to get revenge on me.

Kiera:

I’m dying to get a revenge on you. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Lia:

Because I made her record an episode when she didn’t want to.

Kiera:

When I was an emotional mess. Literally. Literally, we pop on the call. I tell her right before we get on, I message her and say, I can’t do it today I’m an emotional mess. She says, I just wanted to check in on you.

Lia:

I – No. That is not what happened.

Kiera:

Oh, I got the texts.

Lia:

I got the receipts. Go back.

Kiera:

I got the receipts.

Lia:

Yesterday I said I just want to check on you. The day before that, you were like, I don’t feel so hot. And I said, that’s fine, that’s what this podcast episode is about is authenticity.

Kiera:

Oh yeah, you’re right.

Lia:

Oh yeah!

Kiera:

My days are getting mixed up. I’ve had a few emotional days.

Lia:

You had a few emotional days. But now she’s trying to get revenge on me by calling out inside jokes. But that’s fine. So what we want to talk about is…

Kiera:

Yes.

Lia:

… goal setting. I’m a slut for goals. That’s the truth. And in one of the last episodes we did, we talked about how to move yourself up the emotional vibration ladder. And the way that you move yourself from this sense of frustration, to a sense of hope, is with a goal. And I am great at setting goals. Let me tell you, the best. Nay, I am a savant at setting goals. I’m the best in the world. But just beca– like most people I’m really good at setting goals at like New Years. I usually reflect and rededicate on my goals in February. It seems like a good start time. Normally I set my New Years resolutions, and then by my birthday in February I’m like, Ok this is the real start. This is when we really start. January was a trial run.

Kiera:

How about we restart.

Lia:

It was a trial run. But I was listening to a podcast and the woman on there suggested something I have fallen away from. And that is to, I mean, follow your bliss, for one. Find goals that make you excited. And they don’t necessarily have to be like the be all end all. I maintain that it is really hard to set goals ahead of three years. You can have kind of like an idea about what you want, but any actionable goals that you can define really, really well and have a plan for are going to be three years or less. And so I was going through a journal, I was writing down my goals, asking all these good questions, and I realized that – and this is what that woman said – you should, as a part of your daily journaling, write down your goals every single day. And it just like, hit me. Like, God damnit. Ok. Ok. That is excellent advice.

Kiera:

It’s something I do not do.

Lia:

No. No, no, no, no, no. I’ll free-write. So there’re thousands of different journaling strategies. The ones that we’ve talked about so far. Kiera, we’ve talked about the 100 List, like the feel good list, your happy list. That is on one of the episodes. Let me see if I can even find which episode it’s on. But it’s on one of the episodes. We talk about the happy list. Write down things that help you find what your passion is in life. And another type of writing, um that’s going to be Episode 12 of this podcast. How to write your Happy List. Another type of journaling you can do is free-writing. And this is one of my favorites. In the book The Artist’s Way, talks about the pages. Do three pages of free writing. Where you just, kind of first string of consciousness: Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

Kiera:

Word vomit. Let it all out.

Lia:

Word vomit. Straight up do three pages a day. It’s a really great way for your higher intuition and God, Spirit Guides, your higher self, whoever, to really show up in your mind. Because you’re just putting pen to paper and you’re not really thinking, you’re just letting it…

Kiera:

Letting it flow.

Lia:

Yeah. But this other, and one I shall adopt immediately, and have, is writing down your goals every single day. In your journal. So I have this planner, and I’m writing my goals every single day.

Kiera:

Same thing over and over again.

Lia:

Same goals. Like, my goals are relatively the same. And this practice was write down 100 goals for your life. And I was like <sound effect> I disagree.

Kiera:

Don’t have that many.

Lia:

Don’t have that many. And I’m going to be struggling to come up with them. For my whole life. Like, I don’t know where I’m going to want to be when I’m 60.

Kiera:

Yeah.

Lia:

Like, I can’t even fathom what’s possible.

Kiera:

Like, what the goals are going to be. Like, the goals you have achieved by then. Like, yeah.

Lia:

Yeah. There’s no way to project that. I did find out the other day that owning a private island is relatively inexpensive.

Kiera:

Really? Should we go buy one?

Lia:

$425,000 dollars, Kiera. It is cheaper to buy a private…

Kiera:

Than a home!

Lia:

Than a house in Salt Lake City. The value of property, property values…

Kiera:

A shit home, too.

Lia:

The property value of my house, which was built in the 40’s, which was renovated in the 60’s and not touched since then, is the same as a private island off Nicaragua. Granted.

Kiera:

So, let’s go get an island?

Lia:

So let’s go buy us an island. Five acres. I mean, it’s a jungle. It’s not like five acres of manicured lawns and tiki torches. It’s a jungle.

Kiera:

But it can be. 

Lia:

But it could be.

Kiera:

I mean, I’d want to keep most of the jungle, but strip out some of it, put a nice house…

Lia:

Make a little yard.

Kiera:

In there, put a little yard with, you know, tiki torches.

Lia:

Tiki torches, naturally.

Kiera:

And then all the mosquitos in the jungle. We’ve gotta keep them out.

Lia:

And then you have to have a boat.

Kiera:

They love me.

Lia:

You gotta buy a boat so that you can get to and from, you know, the mainland.

Kiera:

Or your private jet, you know.

Lia:

Or a heli… that’s it. A helicopter. A HeliPad. And so we don’t need a pool because we’ve got the ocean.

Kiera:

Yeah.

Lia:

We’ll get a helicopter pad. That’s a good idea.

Kiera:

Good idea.

Lia:

I know a couple of helicopter pilots.

Kiera:

I know a guy that owns a helicopter.

Lia:

Great!

Kiera:

Two actually.

Lia:

Two helicopters or two guys?

Kiera:

Two guys that own helicopters, but I think one of them has two.

Lia:

Nice. One for you, one for me. Perfect. Alright. Perfect. Let’s go marry them immediately.

Kiera:

They are married.

Lia:

Buy a private island. That doesn’t matter these days apparently.  You couldn’t – Kiera just scream laughed in silence. You know when you laugh so hard that nothing comes out? That’s how hard she’s laughing right now. This is fun.

Kiera:

Oh my face is red. Ok.

Lia:

Ok, but. Like we are saying, you can’t know where you are going to be in 20 years.

Kiera:

No.

Lia:

So I’ve worked out just a few goals. And they don’t have to be things like, I will make this much money every year, I will do this, I will do that. Like…

Kiera:

They can be small things.

Lia:

It can be small things, it can be literally anything. My goals… and I’ll just, for accountability purposes, I will put them on here. I want to be completely debt free. I’m getting close. I hired a financial planner and a wealth management specialist because, it doesn’t matter how rich you are, you can afford $60 a month to pay for a financial planner, just like a personal trainer, it just makes it easier. Yeah, you know what you should be doing to save money or what’s smart. But, when there’s an expert there giving you accountability it just makes it easier.

Kiera:

Yes.

Lia:

So I’m getting debt free. On my vision board I have the Indian Scout motorcycle.

Kiera:

She does.

Lia:

I’m going to buy me a motorcycle. I, so a friend of mine keeps feeding me this story, that he’s like, I’m going to see you on the cover of a magazine one day. I’m going to see you on the cover of a magazine one day. So I reached out to my ghostwriter and was like, What does it take to get in a magazine? Not necessarily do I need to be on the cover today, or in the iteration of this goal. But, I want to be featured in a magazine. Which, Kiera hasn’t heard this goal yet.

Kiera:

Tattooed Chicks on Bikes. That’s what she wants to be on. That’s her thing.

Lia:

Tattooed Chicks on Bikes…

Kiera:

Motorcycles.

Lia:

… who are global LinkedIn experts, and also will bully you into living your bliss life?

Kiera:

Yeah. It can be a thing.

Lia:

Is that nichable? Yeah. It is a thing.

Kiera:

It is a thing. I can see it.

Lia:

So, get in a magazine, right?

Kiera:

That’s awesome!

Lia:

That’s my goal. And then I really want to get in shape enough to go on a surfer vacation. Like, a legit vacation. Not just stay at my sister’s house in San Diego. But like, go to Hawaii, stay at a resort, go to… and like, go take surf lessons for a week. Because…

Kiera:

Incredible.

Lia:

Incredible. Because, for me, part of fitness is not just being aesthetic, it is about being able to do things with your body, and celebrate your body. It’s like, I’ve never been surfing. I’ve been snow boarding, I’ve been skiing. I live in Utah, that’s easy. But, there’s a girl I follow on LinkedIn that’s like a surfer chick and I’m obsessed with her. And so… that’s just, and it’s stupid, and it’s like, for no other reason than joy.

Kiera:

And that’s all you need.

Lia:

That’s all you need with your goals. But if I write them every day. Because, my goal of, cuz I’ve had the goal of getting the motorcycle for a while. Like, at least a year now, if not longer. But I just keep getting distracted by things. And so, not only do I have my goals, I’ve got some money goals, I’ve got some lifestyle goals, I’ve got some relationship goals that I probably won’t share. But that’s fine. Just like, I want to take my son on mommy-son dates.

Kiera:

Yeah.

Lia:

And I think I am – you heard it here first folks – I think I’m taking a break from dating.

Kiera:

<Gasp> I eyebrow raised.

Lia:

She gives me the rock eyebrow raise. But really, I think, I said that my season of the bachelorette is over. I did not come out successful. But more successful because of the self-awareness that I gained.

Kiera:

Yes. Everything is always a learning… an opportunity to learn. Everything you do.

Lia:

Yes. But, writing down your goals every single day. And then, creating an affirmation around those goals. So, my affirmation is, Saving money gives my future self freedom, and I succeed at everything I set my mind to. You put those at the top of your goals, you write them every day. Because…

Kiera:

You’ve got that information every day.

Lia:

Every single day. Because getting debt free, or saving for a surf  vacation, or going to the gym to get to the point where I feel like I can successfully execute a surf vacation… like, I’m going to get distracted by things. And we all do. Like, life happens.

Kiera:

Oh yeah. Every day. Keeping those things in the forefront of your mind is going to make it more quickly achievable.

Lia:

Yes, because you’ll maintain focus.

Kiera:

Yes.

Lia:

Kiera, what are some of the goals you’re working on? I didn’t tell you to come with goals prepared.

Kiera:

She did not. Um, what are some of the goals I’m working on?

Lia:

Whenever I ask anyone this question, they always, like their brain goes…

Kiera:

Blank.

Lia:

… in different directions. So, here’s, so this is where I like to use the six relationships. So, like your relationship with yourself, what goals are you working towards?

Kiera:
Um, build more muscle on my body by working out. I want to build more muscle. I feel like I’m not where I want to be.

Lia:

Perfect. What about your power? Your relationship with God, the universe, and source energy?

Kiera:

My goal is to… I want to go back to church, which is an easy step.

Lia:

Which is an easy step.

Kiera:

I just haven’t made it work yet. Life happens, things come in, this is my only day to sleep in. I’m sorry, Dad. Whatever your religion might be, but I want to start going back to church again and feeling that energy. That power. That’s why I want to go.

Lia:

So next is your tribe. Your relationships with your loved ones, your immediate family.

Kiera:

My goal is to spend more quality time with them. I mean, whether it’s planning a lunch with a different friend every month, or making sure that I make going to family dinners and things more of a priority. I want to be able to spend more time with people and keep and maintain those relationships that we have. You know, over time, you like kind of…

Lia:

They fade.

Kiera:

Life happens, you kind of fade away, but I mean there’s those friends that like fall off the map. But then, there’s those other friends that no matter how much time has gone by… Two years can go by and you text each other and it’s like time didn’t even… it’s like you just talked yesterday. Things just flow. Things happen. I mean, Lia and I went through a phase of this, where we really didn’t talk that much. Like, maybe every couple of months if not longer. And then all of a sudden we just… and every time we talked to each other it was like, Oh my gosh, hey how are you doing, hey I miss <blah, blah, blah>.

Lia:

Really good.

Kiera:

And then I was like… and now we’re together all the time.

Lia:

I cannot go more than 72 hours of life without your face.

Kiera:

Oh gosh, it’s like four.

Lia:

Four hours.

Kiera:

Unless it’s nighttime. If it’s daytime? We cannot go more than four…

Lia:

I need you. I need you. Focus. Ok so that’s your tribe.

Kiera:

Yes.

Lia:

We’ve got Self, Higher Power, Tribe… what about your Money? What’s your money goals?

Kiera:

Money. My goal is to, I want to have by the end of next year at least $10,000 saved in savings. Every year I want to save $10,000 in savings. That’s my goal. Yeah.

Lia:

That’s… that’s also one of my goals.

Kiera:

And I want to pay off all of my debt.

Lia:

Yeah.

Kiera:

Yeah. And I’ve been working towards those goals and I am doing an incredible job.

Lia:

And then Time, your time management. What do you want to work on with that? What are your goals? For the way you spend your time.

Kiera:

Where I spend my time. Um, I feel like I need to make sure I make more time for myself. It’s a goal. I mean, at least every two weeks. Once a month if not every two weeks, make sure I make time for myself. Whether it’s going to get a massage, going to get a pedicure. Like, something that just…

Lia:

Like, a super self care.

Kiera:

Yeah. Super self care. But then I also want to make sure that I’m, at least one day a week, really like, spending some really good quality fun time with my son. Like there’s a lot of, like with work, and him being at school, and then like everything else going on like his classes, his whatever. Like, I really want to get to a point that at least once a week we are going out and focus on him. Nothing is going to distract me. I’m going to put my phone away. It’s going to just be us.

Lia:

Mommy-son dates.

Kiera:

We used to do it and then, you know, I got this job, life got busier, there’s just more things. I started dating somebody that, he’s coming into the picture, his family is coming into the picture. And things are just a little bit, just trying to find that balance. But I think those are the two main things that I think I want to focus on.

Lia:

I love it. And while these things are kind of high level, right? But, now that you know what they are, and for all of us. Like, Oh I want to buy a motorcycle. Well, great. But what are the steps you have to take to get there? Actionable, measurable steps. I want to be featured in a magazine. Ok what do I need to do? Well, I should probably make a list of the twenty magazines I think I could probably…

Kiera:

Be in?

Lia:

… be in. Like, that make sense. Right? I should probably reach out to writers, I should probably… right? If I want to be debt free I should probably figure out how much of my paycheck I can start redirecting into savings.

Kiera:

Instead of spending.

Lia:

And stop spending.

Kiera:

Instead of shopping.

Lia:

Instead of going shopping, which I love.

Kiera:

Shopping is a happy place.

Lia:

High level goals across all six relationships. You don’t have to be really driven focused on every single one. Because a lot of mine right now are more… selfish? Question mark? Selfish goals? Like really, furthering my career, doing better with money, and a <inaudible> lifestyle. Yeah and it’s like…

Kiera:

I don’t think those are selfish.

Lia:

It’s not, but it’s like, I don’t have a ton of focus on my Tribe right now. Because that’s something that I honestly am very lucky to just be able to kind of… it’s going to have maintenance. I’m going to spend time with the girls, I’m going to go to New Moon in a few nights and I’m going to go to brunches, and you and I are obviously going to hang out, and I’m going to spend time with my son. But for the last six months it’s really been a big part of my focus to be like, Ok I need to prioritize time for dating, for relationship building, for this, this, and this. And it’s like, Ok, I spent six months really giving it my all out there. And I’m very happy with where I am with that now. I don’t feel the need to keep putting the same level of effort into that aspect of my life. Let’s…

Kiera:

Move on to some of these other ones.

Lia:
Let’s focus on…

Kiera:

And once you achieve one and that one falls off, add another one in it’s place.

Lia:

Yeah.

Kiera:

You constantly work on all six at the same time.

Lia:

Right, it’s like spinning plates. Right? You can spin a plate and it’s going, and you’ve got to check the other plate to be spinning. And yeah, don’t let the plates fall. Like, don’t completely obliterate your personal relationships because you’re focusing on work. Don’t completely disregard the importance of your relationship with your higher power…

Kiera:

Yeah.

Lia:

… because you want to focus on yourself. But know that some of those things can take a back seat. I have not been focused on fitness or self personal development because I was more focused on relationship development. And that’s ok. I didn’t die.

Kiera:

Nope.

Lia:

I am fine. But it’s like, Ok maybe I can redirect a little bit of that energy to myself now.

Kiera:

And it’s ok to take a little time off. Kind of reset. It’s ok.

Lia:

Yep. But, the way that you shift from feeling of apathy and feeling of pointlessness, because we all get there. Like what’s the reason? Why? It’s goals. And to keep your goals at the forefront of your mind you have to write them down every day.

Kiera:

K, I’ll start doing it.

Lia:

K. We’ve gotta do our 100, our Happy List. And then we’ve got to write down our goals.

Kiera:

Yes.

Lia:

I have one, two, three, four, five, six, seven that I have written down. I have seven goals. All of them are… I haven’t given all of them a timeline yet. But these are where I want to focus my energy right now. And that’s perfect. So. Do your journaling. Remember that you matter. Go after the life you want. That’s Amy Landino, that’s what she says. I feel like every time I say that I have to reference that that’s her catchphrase.

Kiera:

Yes. I think you should.

Lia:

Cuz she’s great. Check out Amy Landino if you haven’t yet, she’s a YouTuber. Um… Master your bliss life. You can do anything you set your mind to. And I love you.

Kiera:

Right. Love you.

Narrator: 

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